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Who We Are
Who We Are
Understanding Grieving People
Understanding Grieving People
Author: Kelly Packard
November 17, 2021
Isaiah 53:3 “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief...”
There have been thousands upon thousands of books written about grief and the grieving process. Suffice it to say, then, that this short blog will represent a miniscule aspect of an uncapturable subject. Yet the words within this blog have been gained from personal experience in the trenches of grief, wisdom from professional grief counselors, caregiving training here at Faith (Stephen Ministry), and experience walking alongside others in deep grief.
Life in the trenches of grief has yielded many things that shed fractional light on understanding grieving people. This blog will focus on one specific thing grieving people desire to be understood: the Scripture is not an anesthetic for the pain. The pain is REAL. The pain is a representation of brokenness. Brokenness causes deep pain. Concurrently with that seemingly harsh statement, is complete reverence for the Holy Word and acknowledgement that all Scripture is God-breathed and useful (2 Timothy 3:16). Fact: We still feel pain. The Scriptures are living and active (Hebrews 4:12). They comfort, renew hope, strengthen our faith, and point us to our Savior acquainted with grief. Jesus. The Scriptures are Divinely inspired by God. Yet, we still feel the pain.
Scripture IS God-breathed and absolute Truth. But not an anesthetic for the pain. What then is the beautiful place for Scripture when interacting with grieving people?
Point them to the Man Of Sorrows. Point them to the One acquainted with grief. He is The Word. It’s His Presence that can absorb pain and anguish upon Himself. It’s His ability to speak directly to our spirit. He alone is qualified. He anguished with drops of blood. He took on the cross. His physical body experienced the fullness of pain. Yet he also carried the weight of mans’ sin and the separation from His Father. He felt incomprehensible pain. The Man of Sorrows. The One Acquainted with grief. He gets down into the darkest trenches of grief.
How else do we walk alongside those grieving? Quietly.
When prompted by the Holy Spirit, use words.
Verbally acknowledge the pain and anguish. Enter the situation knowing you aren’t the answer.
In most situations, grieving people know you can’t fix the cause of their grief. They don’t want or need trite answers or empty hope. Faith has an amazing care ministry that provides training to equip others to come alongside grieving people. Stephen Ministry trains caregivers to be present in the pain without the responsibility to fix the pain. Stephen Ministry caregivers point care receivers to the Curegiver, Jesus.
Those coming alongside others in deep grief benefit from embracing the inadequacy of our self-inspired words. If words are needed, we need Holy Spirit guided words.
I resonate with these thoughts from Sarah Young in Jesus Calling...
“You need the help of My Spirit to respond appropriately. Ask Him to think through you, live through you, love through you. If you respond to others’ needs through your unaided thought processes, you offer them dry crumbs.”
Let His Spirit allow us to offer Living Water. There’s an invitation from our Suffering Savior for grief-caused thirst. Here His words.
John 7:37 “If anyone thirsts, let him come to me and drink.”
Living Water from the Man of Sorrows. A Divinely adequate supply. Not dry crumbs.
Trust the Living Water inside of you to create the adequacy to come alongside the grief.
John 7:38 “Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, ‘Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water. Now this he said about the Spirit.....”
Understanding grieving people is complex. The Man of Sorrows, the One acquainted with grief, our Suffering Savior. He knows. Praises for His provision of Living Water.
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